Guard your heart and hold out for these: God-ordained friendships and Spirit-led alliances. Do not allow the enemy to use fear of man or people-pleasing to break down your healthy boundaries. So many people in ministry burn out because they do not come to an understanding of boundaries. These are healthy walls, with gates for the right people to enter. You get to decide who to share yourself with, who to invest your heart in. You have control over your self and your spirit.
“Whoever has no rule over his own spirit is like a city broken down, without walls.” Proverbs 25:28
“I am a companion of all who fear You, and of those who keep Your precepts.” Psalm 119:63
This word companion is chaber. It means “associate, fellow, knit together.”
The Lord is bringing your people. It might be slow in developing. He intends to knit you together with heart-friends. They will be people who fear Him first, which is the beginning of wisdom, and walk in obedience and friendship and trust to/with His written Word, His spoken Word, His Holy Spirit, and His timing and purposes.
Knitting takes a while. I can go buy a winter hat at the store, and it takes no time. But it is usually not the highest quality. A high quality, winter hat made of soft, warm, durable wool takes hours to knit. But guess what? It’s worth a dozen of the other kind of hat. And it lasts ten times as long.
These are the kind of friendships, fellowship, associates He has for you in this next season. The kind that He weaves, directed by His Spirit.
“What sorrow awaits my rebellious children,” says the Lord. “You make plans that are contrary to mine. You make alliances not directed by my Spirit, thus piling up your sins.” Isaiah 30:1
Let your alliances from now on be led by His Spirit. An alliance is someone you are in covenant with, someone you agree to invest in, love, protect, and defend. Like David and Jonathan. Ruth and Naomi.
“Guard your heart with all diligence, for out of it spring the issues of life.” Proverbs 4:23
“The fear of man brings a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord shall be safe.” Proverbs 29:25
If you trust in the Lord, it brings safety. Real safety, from Jesus – a shield completely around you. The Lord is your shield and His love is your defense. He is your refuge and your high tower. He is your closest Friend.
The right people will come with peace, wisdom, and confirmation. They will also have healthy boundaries, and control over their spirit. These are fellow warriors, who fear God more than people. They are wise, steadfast, prayerful, patient, tested, full of faith and power. These are the right people to be woven together with. They are not perfect, but they are discerning and ready.
Anyone else needs to bounce off your shield. They cannot have access to your heart or be allowed to cause damage. You are shielded. Trust in the Lord for your people. Only allow the people He sends, who invest in you and listen to you and pray for you and care for you, to have access to your heart.
It is worth paying attention to His timing. Excellent friends, who sharpen you, are worth the wait.